Having personally gone through (and still living with) the tourment of infertility and subsequently the IVF journey I understand how hurtful it is to see baby scans and pregnancy announcement after pregnancy announcement.
So when I became pregnant myself I tortured myself with the debate of posting my happy news announcement because I knew some of my friends were in a similar position as me.
It can become so exhausting worrying about what other people might think that at some point you have to tell yourself enough is enough. Yes, your little announcement might upset a couple of friends but true friends (and those in the same position) should be happy for you.
If not move on. You don’t need to be friends with the whole world nor do you need to be liked by lots of people. In the baby journey the only people that matter are you, your partner and the little miracle you’re growing. Ok immediate family as well and possibly your BFF but really you need to stop with the whole “oh what happens if Jens, uncles’ best friends jack Russel will get upset if I post a 12-week scan” attitude – move past it and live.
Then once that miracle is born share as little or as much as you want too. It’s your life, your rules.